Just how much do fathers matter?
In the growing world of single-parenting,
along with a Westernised trend of many women “going at it alone” (some
through choice, others not), fatherhood has taken a bit of a knock over the past
few decades. Many will argue that
fatherhood is becoming less and less important, often supported by fallacies such as
the idea that any strong, independent woman can do the job of both mother and
father. But how true is this sentiment
exactly and are we fathers far less important than we may like to think?
Consider this...
In his book, Do
Father’s Matter?, Paul Raeburn provides interesting evidence as to why the
latter could not be further from the truth.
In fact, these findings support the importance of fatherhood as early as
conception. So how important are we in
the lives of our children?
At Conception: scientists (more specifically research
biologists at Harvard) have found that imprinted genes (those coming from
either the mother or the father) actually compete for resources in the womb.
In pregnancy: It’s been
shown that infants whose fathers were absent during pregnancy were more
inclined to be premature or carry a lower birth weight. These babies were also more unfortunate in
that they were 4 times more likely to die within the first year when a father
figure was absent. Complications in
pregnancy were also more prevalent when male counterparts were absent. This research however is merely
correlational, and whilst it is interesting, it cannot infer a causal
relationship between the presence of a biological father and
complications. The positive correlation
between the two factors may well carry a relationship, but one would need to
bear in mind a multitude of additional environmental factors such as the
mother’s age, her living conditions, previous history with regards to
pregnancy, genetic predispositions to such occurrences, etc.
@birth: now that the
delivery room is no longer a mother-to-be and doctor affair, the presence of
fathers has seen a decline in the request for pain relief. As an added bonus, it has also improved
attachment between fathers and their infants, leading to a higher level of
involvement from the father’s side.
Postpartum: how do we possibly measure the importance
of a parental figure when it comes to infants?
As I have focussed on before, there is a high increase in the number of
fathers reporting postpartum depression.
This may more than likely limit the father’s ability to emotionally
engage and connect with their infant.
Research has shown that infants of fathers who have had major episodes
of postpartum depression show an eight times more likelihood of behavioural
problems as they grow up as well as a thirty-six times more likelihood to have
a lack of pro-social efficiency (getting along with peers).
Toddlers: Researchers from Oxford University
observed that toddlers who had remote/absent fathers displayed higher rates of
aggressive behaviour irrespective of the mother’s interaction with that
toddler. To increase the validity of
these findings, research conducted in Sweden also found that where fathers were
more involved with their children, these toddlers displayed fewer behavioural
problems in early childhood and were less likely to become delinquents in
adolescence.
Early Childhood: When it
comes to language acquisition, fathers tend to matter more than mothers. The thinking behind this theory is as
follows: as mothers tend to spend more time with their children (generally),
they are more likely to use child-like / child-friendly phrases, words and
sentences (words which are familiar to children) when in the company of their
children, whilst fathers, who might be less aware of their children’s
linguistic comfort zone, will tend to introduce a wider, more complex vocabulary.
The Teenager Years: Why
do girls with absent fathers tend to reach sexual maturation earlier than those
whose fathers are still present? Why do
girls with absent fathers statistically display higher rates of teenage
pregnancy? Where young girls have grown
up in homes where parents split, it has been found that younger female siblings
tended to start menstruation, on average, 11 months earlier than the oldest
female sibling who had had more exposure to the father being around before he
left. Evolutionary psychologists will
explain this in terms of those who are younger siblings will innately determine
the father’s leaving as men don’t stick
around so I need to mature quick enough to secure a mate. The source of this belief could be explained
through pheromones; yip, the father’s scent.
In animal research it has been found that prolonged exposure to a
father’s pheromones can slow down puberty – can we extrapolate that to humans...well, I guess you can make your mind up and decide on that one
yourself.
Although there is plenty of research referred to here, one
cannot assume that there is, necessarily, a cause and effect relationship...in
other words, male presence equals healthier, more stable children. Many single mothers have proved otherwise; I
know of many single mothers who have provided in such a way that their children
have developed and flourished in a single-parent home. There is, however, little doubt, that we
fathers do have a massive role to play...and a little scientific support to
reiterate this very notion can’t be a bad thing.
Excellent post! I haven't seen any quite like it. Thank you so much for your detail and explanations. Now if we could just get the world to understand this! The father's role is beyond critical in the foundation and future lives or our kids. Extra critical for girls. We've been reading a great new, actually renewed book, I think all dads with daughters would enjoy. We're loving it, so I have to share... It's called “She Calls Me Daddy: 7 Things You Need to Know About Building a Complete Daughter,” by Robert Wolgemuth. Originally released in the 90s, it was a best seller. His girls are grown up and give their own input along with their husbands who are daddies to girls. I understand 40% of the book is new material. It's so unique in this way. Robert puts the anxieties of Daddy raising his girl(s) to rest, guiding you through challenges and good times – protecting, conversation, affection, discipline, laughter, faith, conduct. So great for helping daddies learn to lead, love and cherish. I highly recommend it! http://www.tyndale.com/She-Calls-Me-Daddy/9781589977853#.U7jH414Q7wI
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